A Canadian woman who recently moved to the UK has stirred up an online debate with her take on dating British men. Sharing her experiences on Reddit, she highlighted a “major problem” she’s been facing—fast-paced dating expectations. The 27-year-old, seeking a serious relationship, described how three out of four times, her dates asked for a kiss right off the bat. She admits she’s a bit old-school and prefers to take things slow, but it seems dating in the UK might have different norms.
One situation she described involved a man becoming pushy after just two dates, accusing her of leading him on when she wasn’t ready to escalate things. In another instance, after declining a kiss on a first date, the guy invited himself over, and when she refused, he called her unaccommodating and stopped contacting her. Frustrated, she asked fellow Reddit users if all British men expect a kiss so soon.
The responses flooded in. One commenter assured her, “You can have whatever boundaries you want. They’re great for spotting red flags.” While another offered a different perspective, saying, “As an American dating in the UK, not many folks wait that long for a kiss here.” A third voice chimed in with a hopeful note, stating, “Stick to your boundaries, and the right person will come along when you least expect.”
What’s your take on this? Do you agree with the notion that dating here is somewhat fast-paced, or is it all a matter of personal boundaries? Share your thoughts!